As the strident ringing of the phone began, I made the decision to let it go to voice mail. It was clearly coming from outside the college, so I knew that, whoever it was, they’d likely leave a message.
The red light flashed on the phone, announcing the presence of a message, so I dailed into the voice mail system to retrieve it. “Pat, Jeff Wicks. Call me IMMEDIATELY!” Jeff is the lawyer handling my case.
As I prepared to call him back, the audible notification for the arrival of an email sounded, and I saw the little flashing window say “Pat, call me NOW!” I began dialing Jeff’s number and, as the call connected, a man poked his head in my door, asking me are you Pat M?” “Yes,” I replied. “You need to call Jeff Wicks, it’s an emergency.”
Jeff answered the phone — he doesn’t normally do that. “Pat! We won!” he shrieked.
The Appellate Court ruled, UNANIMOUSLY, that New York State must recognize our valid Canadian marriage.
Appeal from a judgment of the Supreme Court, Monroe County (Harold L. Galloway, J.), dated July 27, 2006 in an action for, inter alia, a declaratory judgment. The judgment granted defendants’ motion for summary judgment to the extent of granting judgment in favor of defendants declaring, inter alia, that plaintiff’s marriage to Lisa XXXXXXXXXX in the Province of Ontario, Canada, is not entitled to recognition in New York State and denied plaintiff’s cross motion for partial summary judgment.
It is hereby ORDERED that the judgment so appealed from is unanimously reversed on the law without costs, the motion is denied in its entirety, the cross motion is granted in part, and judgment is granted in favor of plaintiff as follows:
It is ADJUDGED and DECLARED that plaintiff’s marriage to Lisa XXXXXXXXXX in the Province of Ontario, Canada is entitled to recognition in New York State.
This…..is…..HUGE!
To read the decision in its entirety, click the link below.
News articles at:
- New York Times
- MSNBC
- Rochester Democrat and Chronicle
- ACLU
- 365gay.com
- The Advocate
- Reuters
- Newsday
- WCAX Vermont (AP)
- Yahoo!
- 13WHAM (local)
- AngelCitysDevil.com
- Albany Times Union
- Puerto Rico Inside
- Poughkeepsie Journal
- CyberPresse Canada (I hope you speak French)
- New York Law School (news)
***UPDATE:
I didn’t want to do a new blog entry, I want the words “VICTORY” to be prominent for another couple days or so.
We’re amazed at all that has happened in the past 16 hours. To think that yesterday I was looking forward to the weekend to rest up a bit, get ahead of what I think might be a cold developing, and watch the SuperBowl. At 3:00 yesterday afternoon, myrocked my world.
I’m grateful, however, that we had the house phone disconnected just a couple of weeks ago now. Not only does it keep the media wolves at bay, but it will certainly go a long way toward preventing the crazies from calling and giving us grief.
This news has spread throughout NY State (and the GLBTQ community nationwide) like wildfire. One comment on a blog I frequent said “Hear that? That’s the sound of DOMA swirling down the drain.” It has been picked up by the NY Times as well as a newspaper in Puerto Rico, one in New Zealand, and too many to count in Canada.
I slept fitfully for most of the night. I’m still a bit keyed up with the excitement from the ruling, but also a bit nervous about all the immediate tomorrows and what they’ll bring.
I also can’t help but think that we have a homophobe to thank for this — that being the director of HR who intially refused to recognize the marriage in the first place. Add to the list of people to thank are the legal counsel who gave the HR director a bum steer, as well as the lackluster case the defendants put together.
And what about that “defense?”
“They went to Canada as an end-around to existing NY state law.”
Well, DUH! But, how is that different than, say, the young couple who travels across state lines to marry WITHOUT parental consent because they’re not old enough in their own state to marry without that consent? If they’re a hetero couple, that marriage would be recognized, even though it, too, was an “end-around” to the existing marriage law.
“The marriage shouldn’t be recognized because they’re not even Canadian.”
WTF?
“This should be dismissed because of governmental immunity.”
Governmental immunity doesn’t grant carte blanche to government agencies to make arbitrary and discriminatory decisions though, does it?
Some friends of ours have begun preparations for a “celebratory” party. It may double as a fund-raiser to help oust a local Republican (state) Senator but, at least right now, it’s going to primarily be a huge celebration for ALL of us.
The reporter who interviewed me yesterday did a wonderful job of writing the “human” story behind this:
When Patricia Martinez and her newlywed spouse, Lisa Ann Golden, returned from Canada after their wedding in 2004, Martinez felt as if there was “a cloud over the marriage.”
The gay partners had wed in Canada but were returning to their home state, New York, which did not legally allow gay marriages.
On Friday, Martinez said, the cloud lifted. In a ruling hailed as historic by gay rights activists, an appellate court ruled Friday that New York must recognize same-sex marriages legally consecrated elsewhere.
This appears to be the first appellate ruling in the country mandating that a state must recognize the same-sex marriage of a couple legally wed elsewhere, according to officials with the New York Civil Liberties Union.
“Today I know the legal world looks at my marriage as valid, as something we’re not going to sweep under the rug, as something that doesn’t end,” said Martinez, a Chili resident who filed suit in 2005 to try to get her marriage legally blessed in New York. “Because we’re not going to go away.”
(…)
While the appellate ruling may be steeped in New York history, some gay rights activists hailed the decision Friday as one that could move the state closer to acceptance of gay marriage.
“It becomes really obvious that it’s incredibly archaic to allow some people marriage and not others,” said Christopher Hinesley, executive director of the Gay Alliance of Genesee Valley.
Donna Lieberman, executive director of the state New York Civil Liberties Union, said in a statement: “Congratulations to all same-sex couples validly married outside of New York state: You are now husband and husband, and wife and wife. Now we need to work toward a New York where you don’t have to cross state or country lines to get married.”
Wicks agreed that the ruling alters the landscape in New York.
(…)
Golden, 40, said Friday that she has never considered her marriage to Martinez anything but legitimate, but the appellate ruling was cause for celebration. “I think it’s a huge step for the same-sex community,” she said. Martinez, 52, said there are many practical benefits to the legal acceptance of her marriage, giving the couple no worries about the handling of household decisions common in heterosexual marriages.
“We take out loans together,” Martinez said. “We finance cars together.”
The ruling also helps ensure that the couple can make care-related decisions for each other without legal interference. Martinez suffers from multiple sclerosis, which has been in remission for 17 years.
But, mostly, Martinez said, the appellate ruling validates her belief that marriage is more than “a piece of paper.”
“You don’t get married without the intent of it being recognized. To me, marriage is the ultimate commitment.”
One of my former student aides, last night on IM said “You’re going to be in our textbooks really soon!” He’s currently attending school down in St. Augustine, FL and says “I am SO going to bring this up with my unity group!”
Hopefully the crazies won’t find my blog. It’d be awful for us to have to watch them implode here, wouldn’t it?

















CONGRATULATIONS!!!! that’s such exciting news! here come spousal benefits
that so rocks the casbah!
By: naomi on February 1, 2008
at 11:19 pm
FAN-FUCKING-TABULOUS! This is the best news I’ve had in 2008!
By: hahnathome on February 1, 2008
at 11:23 pm
Fucking Fantastic!!! So thrilled to read this!
Congrats ladies!!!
By: SassyFemme on February 2, 2008
at 7:32 am
I’m just in tears.
Congrats Pat. You did it!!
Off to read more!
Huge hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By: scribbleandscribe on February 2, 2008
at 7:54 am
Pat luckily I got on here this Sat. a.m. and rushed over here, read, and promptly burst into tears of joy! I am so very happy for you and Lisa and hope this means good things for everyone else denied the basic rights given to couples such as the hub and I.
Now i’ve got to explain to Madison why Mommy is crying LOL
Big Hugs to y’all from down south!
By: Patti on February 2, 2008
at 7:54 am
I’m just so darned pleased for you. What a difference you have made for our community by standing up and fighting for this very important issues. I snagged your pic for my blog – little story over there too. Enjoy your celebratory weekend – does this mean you get honeymoon sex again?
By: hahnathome on February 2, 2008
at 9:43 am
Pat and Lisa,
On a personal level, I am so thrilled for you!! I had chills that wouldn’t quit.
If I didn’t know you, I would still be grateful to you and (was it Lambda Legal) for taking on this case. I do have some concerns for your privacy but at the same time feel you are capable of handling yourself.
As a step toward equality for all, this gives us great hope, optimism, and the impetus to continue the struggle. Being up close and personal to something so Historic and righteous, must be breathtaking!
Thank you,
Peg
By: AskaLesbian on February 2, 2008
at 9:59 am
OH HONEY!!! I just don’t have words to say how WONDERFUL this is!!!! TRULY TRULY WONDERFUL!!!
Now when you get interviewed on the Today Show tell Matt I said HI
By: Cheeky on February 2, 2008
at 10:29 am
Pat, updated my blog with this amazing news!
I am so proud of you!
By: scribbleandscribe on February 2, 2008
at 10:44 am
Absolutely grand on so many levels. Congratulations and thank you’s are clearly owed to many!
By: Lachlan on February 2, 2008
at 12:36 pm
[...] pretty damn landmark decision just came down in NY State. A women who married her partner in Canada took her case for comity all [...]
By: More News On The Marriage Front — My So-Called Blog on February 2, 2008
at 12:49 pm
Another link to a news article:
http://chronicle.com/news/article/3855/community-college-discriminated-against-lesbian-couple-ny-court-rules?commented=1#c010253
I’m sure they’re will be so many you won’t be able to keep up.
By: AskaLesbian on February 2, 2008
at 2:00 pm
Naomi, cheeky, lachlan and SassyFemme — thanks!
Lori — 2008 is still young, don’t worry — lots more good news on the horizon. Thanks for the plug on your blog.
Annie — thanks for the plug on YOUR blog, too.
Peg — girl, you crack me up. Thanks for the plug as well as the research.
Patti — you tell Madison that mommy is a very happy liberal and that a liberal is a GOOD thing to be!
By: Pat on February 2, 2008
at 2:32 pm
This is one of the best weeks I have ever known. Pat first of all I am so unbelievably proud of you two for sticking your necks out for what is right.
For standing up for each other and doing something that must of caused great stress at times, I admire you. You are an important part of our communitiy’s history and our struggle for civil rights. I do believe this is about civil rights, period, and I ,for one, am proud to know you in Blogworld, and two, proud to have you as a reader of my blog.
Three cheers for civil rights! and Blogworld too.
Nice job ladies.
By: beecharmers on February 2, 2008
at 4:21 pm
Wow! Absolutely wonderful. Congratulations to both of you and thanks for the hard work!
By: Robin on February 2, 2008
at 5:46 pm
What deightful news!
By: RoxieAmerica on February 2, 2008
at 6:50 pm
I would love to read the court opinion. If it is online is there a link?
This is awesome!
By: Roxie on February 2, 2008
at 6:55 pm
Hi Pat,
Just wanted to stop by and offer an EXTREME congratulations to you!!! EXCELLENT news!!
RC
By: RC on February 2, 2008
at 10:18 pm
beecharmers — “sticking our necks out?” I suppose but, frankly, it was really about what was right. Nothing more.
Robin — thanks for stopping by, and thanks for your kind comments.
Roxie — it can be found at http://rochesterdandc.com/assets/pdf/A29853321.PDF
RC (scotty?) — Thanks a bunch!
By: Pat on February 2, 2008
at 11:40 pm
WoW!!!!! and WoW!!!! and WoW!!!!! FanTasTic! News!! Woooo Hooooo! Congratulations. Good for you both to hang in there and fight! Way to freakin’ Go!
By: Deborah on February 3, 2008
at 4:07 am
CONGRATULATIONS, PAT!!!!
Thank you, thank you for sticking to your guns when the naysayers thought the 4th Department would just be another nail in the coffin. Never underestimate upstate!
By: Candice on February 3, 2008
at 1:03 pm
awesome! this is inspirational.
By: Marcia on February 3, 2008
at 5:00 pm
Congratulations & thanks for your efforts.
I would love to read Cuomo’s Amicus brief. Any idea where I can get it?
By: Michelle on February 6, 2008
at 10:18 pm
Hey Pat- I take a blogging hiatus and all hell breaks loose!
Seriously, congrats to you and Lisa. I know it’s the right decision, and I’m happy the courts ruled the way they did. It’s good to see folks getting the idea that the 14th amendment means what it says.
Go out, celebrate and enjoy your party, but please take it easy on the Republican state senator
By: LC Scotty on February 7, 2008
at 4:44 pm
[...] for super exciting news, i.e. RSG’s recent nuptials or latest fight to change the world. Or Pat’s unbelievable story of her win in the fight for her and her wife’s civil rights. [...]
By: Lurking and Statistics « BeeCharmer’s Buzz on March 2, 2008
at 5:28 pm
Pat -
I was in your same shoes (married in Canada 2004, working for the State, and my wife being denied health benefits as a spouse – only allowed domestic partner benefits). I had talked with Jeff briefly at one point, as I was researching potentially similar legal claims, but he said he was not interested in making it a class action suit, and the other legal-eagles I talked with at the time said to wait for the outcome of your case before creating another just like it, so in the meantime I took a different route, publishing articles in my Union newsletter, going to Albany, just basically raising as much of a stink as I could. I was able to make some headway, as the Union and State agreed in our new contract to allow spousal benefits to same-sex couples. But it had nowhere near the impact that your fight and VICTORY has achieved!!
But now, I will be the true test of that ruling. My wife has left our relationship, gone to Vermont and entered into a civil union with another (without first divorcing me) and using the courts to financially devastate me, assuming (I suppose) that our marriage will not be legally recognized so therefore there ARE no marital rights or marital property or debt (just “yours and mine” as she claims)
Sadly, I am running into a brick wall in finding legal help. She was able to force me into bankruptcy by walking away from joint debt in my name (and because this occurred before your ruling, there was no way that I could stop it and hold her legally responsible … the debts were created on my credit). Now, because of the bankruptcy, not only can I find no legal help pro bono (and the Legal Aid clinics have stated that they won’t deal with “THAT” kind of divorce), but the debts for our home have fallen to her, and she doesn’t like it! (Surprise. Surprise). She has filed a complaint for a Partition action (trying to force a sale of our home to pay off those debts, even though I live in the home and the bankruptcy did not take away my rights to it, and she has three other properties in “Her” name acquired with her father DURING the course of our marriage)
i feel now like you probably felt in 2006 – defeated and deflated – but I also am now not just fighting those outside of our relationship who refuse to recognize it, but also (apparently) my own wife who refuses to recognize it as legitimate.
Any advice as to where to go, whom to speak with, what to do would be INCREDIBLY appreciated!!!
Congratulations on your victory. I hope it will also extend to me and others like me.
Laureen
By: Laureen Wells-Weiss on March 4, 2008
at 6:08 am
[...] to attain equal status in regards to family and probate law in this country. Seems for every Martinez story there is a Maggie Brooks counterattack or an ignorant rant from the likes of Sally [...]
By: Only You Can Be The Change « Natomas LGBTQ Community on April 7, 2008
at 10:17 am
[...] to attain equal status in regards to family and probate law in this country. Seems for every Martinez story there is a Maggie Brookes counterattack or an ignorant rant from the likes of Sally [...]
By: rochesterturning.com: turning the tide upstate on April 7, 2008
at 6:13 pm